to make it simpler, sebenarnya aku bnyk notice stigma among us. x kira lah friends, family, towards strangers pun kadang2 ada je assumption kan. x terlepas, makanan pun ! oh god, aku x pham bila mknn (kesian kau mee goreng) pun nak distigmakan *tinggi sgt bahasa tu* alryte, for me being stigma towards ur surrounding kadang2 perlu sbb it's kind of reminder to urself for being careful. cth mcm ni, someone approach you, lpas tu tnya num fone. dh terang lg bersuluh lah kna stigma kan. kalo kau bg, mmg banggang jugak ceritanya. so, this is to protect urself from danger. this is good tp bila semua bnda pun judgemental x de freedomnya hidup.
slalu judgement yg aku dngar psal gay, lesbian, couple. sex orientation is the most i guest. lg2 bila a group girl jalan2, msti gossip kaw kaw punya *ada pngalaman*
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lg2 bila nmpk this kind of person or couple yg brjalan2 di atas muka bumi, msti kuar statement ni "weh, tgok tu, lessy doe, apalah mslh pompuan tu nak couple ngn pengkid. buta ke ape" here, u already being judgemental without knowing the truth. statement akn dipnjngkan mnjd cerita yg mungkin boleh menang award. okay, sekarang ni kau x tau, "that kind of person" tu btol2 couple ke kawan ke, adik beradik ke. x mungkin kau akn pegi approach kat "that kind of person" dan tnya. "korg ni couple ea? " "lpas tu point kat gf (kalo btol gf) knapa kau couple ngn pompuan jgk ?". x pun kau nak tnya bg mndptkan confirmation. tp being stigma terbaikk punya.
santek kan, pndai pilih.
and ! how can u sure yg 2 manusia gorgeous ni bkn lesbian ? ada tulis kat dahi dia ke ? ke dorg msj kau ? see ? ! u don't even know. knapa x de stigma on "normal" person like them ? sbb dorg nmpk biasa mcm org lain. kan ? bila pelik skit, mulalah..kalo nak being judgemental, judge lah sume skali..fair and square. cuba bygkan, kau dh buat assumption thap dewa punya, tetiba assumption kau didapati salah, totally wrong ! rsa cm ne ? rsa nak bungee jumping tanpa any safety cautious. malu 1 hal, dosa yg sedia ada berbakul2 tu kau tambah lg kebakulannya. kan dh rugi.
one more scenario i often saw is. judgemental towards free hair and bertudung person. yg free hair msti akan dicop "bermasalah" dan bertudung akan ditudungkan dgn "solehah". this might be klise, but still happen among us. pndai plak ckp tudung x mnggambarkan attitude seseorang, dh tu kau still cop yg free hair tu troublesome tu dh kenapa. bkn nak mmburukkan yg bertudung, bertudung is good, part of tuntutan islam, menutup aurat. tp sejauh mna kau tau akhlak baik si bertudung tu. dan sedalam mna kau tau rosak akhlak si free hair tu ? so, kalo x tau, diam. doakan yg baik2 je, kan senang. kepala pun x serabut nak memikir, hati senang.
"banduan tetap banduan ! " , "kalo dh penagih tu penagih jgk laa". ni ayat yg slalu aku dngar dan jumpa dlm drama melayu. nmpk x ? andaian yg ada dlm our society. jahat sekali, akan jahat selamanya. setuju ke statement ni ? x setuju angkat tngan, nak kira *sekolah menengah sgt* give a space, for a better result. dh kalo 24/7 stigma mcm mna x stress. lg satu ayt ni "eh, dia ank tok imam, x kan lah dia nak buat jhat. bukan dia tu (padahal btol) ". see ? org baik mmg x boleh buat dosa lah kiranya ? kau ingt dia tu malaikat ke ? manusia jgk, mkn nasi bukan mkn besi yg boleh jd baik dr kluar perut smpai masuk liang lahad. remember, hearts change, and u can't read it.
all those only small little tiny *kecik sgt dh kenapa* example of common judgemental. bnyk lg, dr sekecik2 smpai sebesar2 stigma yg boleh mmbawa kesan negatif. apa kata, kau beong judgemental dlm hati sorg2, x pyah nak speak out loud, lpas tu ckp plak kat jiran umah sbelah mnyebelah.
kalo x tau diam, senang. x de sapa sakit hati. kalo nak ckp sgt,
talk with evidence, and evidence will talk for you.
p/s : contoh2 diatas tiada kene mngena dgn yg meninggal dunia atau yg masih hidup. hanya rekaan semata2.
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